Last night we had our MUD event, Men Under Duress.
We went to the local Cue Club, had a ale and played some pool. Actually only two of us played pool. The rest of the crew came to get out of the house and spend some time with some mates.
In a unusual twist (thats what happens when you combine two excellent lattes and beer) I was thinking about an episode of the Simpsons when Homer went to Vegas with Ned Flanders. Now why would Homer go anywhere, particular Vegas, with Ned? Ned is his nerdy Christian next door neighbour. Dont worry, I am not going to try and say a Christian is the only person that can be a real friend to someone.
What I am going to say is that Homer is typical of many 40ish males in that he has no real mates. Some blokes do, they have friends that have always been their friends, that were their best mate, that they can turn to when things go to ‘mud’ in their life.
Homer is ‘sort of’ friends with Lenny and Carl….but Lenny and Carl seem to be the real mates, Homer is a third wheel. He is ‘friends’ with Moe, the barman, but that is a symbiotic relationship, Moe supplies Homer’s third place, and beer to numb the pain, Homer supplies Moe with money.
So the only real friend he has is his wife….and that is typical of many males his age. So when wants to go to Vegas, he goes with Ned….and that is in conflict with the overall story of the Simpsons, because Ned is a nerdy Christian.
I wonder how many men there are in Homer’s situation, many I reckon. What I am going to say next could be taken the wrong way….but men need more than their wife.
Our wife should be our best friend, but we need best mates as well.