Category Archives: Spiritual Thoughts

The Pressure on Pastors

Ever since Bill Hybels said that church leadership was the hardest form of leadership the question of how much pressure there is on Pastors has been brought to light.

On Sunday night I was chatting with someone who has been in and around pastoral ministry all her life. She told me the story of how when she was a teenager there was a discussion at a church meeting which revolved around the Pastors salary. One man stood up and said that the pastors salary needed to be low because he could not be allowed to earn any more than anyone in the church. They discussed how the Pastor needed to be a humble servant, like Jesus. If they earnt more than someone else in the church there might be resentment or even worse, pride in the heart of the pastor.

Now this post is not about a pastors salary. It is about the pressure on the pastor. In those days the pastor was expected to visit everyone in the church, to be involved wholeheartedly in their lives. Things have changed. The pressure comes at a different point.

The pressure is now on the pastor is to be overseeing a large growing church. To be, and here is the contentious word, succesful. Along with the wonderful resource that the internet and media has brought us has also come examples world-wide of your pastors failing. How come the worship is not as inspiring as Hillsong? How come the preaching is not as stirring as Furtick or as deep as Ortberg? How come we are not growing like Saddleback or Willow Creek?

Even pressure to be like the church down the road. The worst words a Pastor hears on a Monday is, ‘this church is just not meeting our needs”. As the family you have cared for takes themself off the roster and moves on to the shiny building down the road your heart sinks.

Reality is that success also brings pressure. To continue to grow, to make each year bigger than the last. And more people with more needs and their own desire to be successful are attracted to you. It can also cover up the need for character. All is forgiven if the pastor is successful. We eat on the fat of success and forgive character flaws because of it.

Everyone has pressure in their work. Everyone. And how could I as a pastor know what pressure there is being something else? From the CEO caring for multiple employees to the nurse caring for grumpy patients to the teacher trying to impart knowledge to disinterested teenagers. Perhaps a unique challenge in being a pastor is that everyone who calls themself a Christian really truly deeply care about their faith, their spirituality, their children’s faith.

And  a pastor who is worth their salt will care about that too. There should be pressure on us. We are leading what is meant to be the primary organisation in the world. If Apple corporation does not get the next iPhone right they might fail financially. If the Church does not get its role right, the world will be in even more pain than it is.

So I suppose I am calling for a radical middle. A radical balance. No one wants a pastor who doesn’t care about their church and their community. Who isn’t aiming to be effective, skilled and fruitful. But equally, no one wants a pastor who fails, drops out, burns out and is rendered ineffective. Perhaps what a Pastor needs is grace. Grace to do their ministry, grace when they mess up, grace when they are not as good as the pastor down the road. Grace which resources.

And this is something we can all relate to.

Father Hunger

It does not matter how old a man gets. He is still a son.

Every man I have ever met has been defined in many ways by their relationship with their father.

I was speaking to a person who trains tradies. Blokey young men. Many of them have had absent fathers. The fathers that are present have told them how useless they are. That they can’t do basic tasks. Things that a tradie finds necessary. My friend has to father them before he can train them.

It seems to me this generation has in many ways not learnt from the previous one. There are many great fathers. But there are many young men with absent, abusive, emotionally void and uncaring dads.

It felt like this generation would be different. But so many dads have never grown up themself. They spend time, money and attention on games. Games of all types. From video games to four wheel drive accessories. Pure selfishness.

Afraid to join

 But no one else dared to join them, even though all the people had high regard for them” (Acts 5.13)

During the early stages of the church it was obvious the love and supernatural power that the church had.  The Early Church spoke out against the injustice of the day. It helped the poor and sick.

Imagine being a church where we were known for Gods power and love flowing through us in such abundance that the culture and world around us saw and recognised God was at work. We were well regarded. Even if they are to afraid to join.

Be who you are, everyone else is taken

All of us play the comparison game at some point. This is no less true of Pastors and Church Leaders. How often do I find myself checking out the website of another church to see what they are up to. If it fits my paradigm, if their style is on point, their music is relevant, their carpark is full.

It would not be hard for the carpark at my church to be full. Its not that large!

But in another way and perhaps more seriously, I sometimes find myself comparing myself to other leaders, particularly in the area of what they have achieved in a certain amount of time. Recent events with some high profile church Pastors remind me that quick spectacular success is not as appealing as what it appears. The dysfunction seemingly required in some ministries is a price I am not willing to pay.

My mentor reminded me that I need to lead out of the storehouse God has given me. I might put it that I need to lead with what God has placed in my hand. I like to think I can speak well. I like to think I lead with compassion and understanding. I wish I was more focused and strategic. Sometimes it seems I have led by accident, based on a  ‘gut feel’ of what God is saying rather than a ten year carefully formulated plan.

Then there is the intangibles. God’s favour. Blind luck. A perfect storm of circumstances. These things provide growth and favour which cannot be manufactured.

Who am I? What do I lead out of? Well I love the gathering. I sense the atmosphere with some sense of accuracy. I know what works. What ignites my joy is seeing people engaged with God, hearing His voice and responding to the Spirit. I am confident in my ability to discern people. All these things are not necessarily or exclusively human. They are gifting from God.

I am not someone else. I am me. Out of this I seek to lead. This does not excuse me from needing to surround myself strategically with others who can resource what I can’t. I pray I am thankful for who I am, thankful for who others are, and faithful and fruitful with the time I have. 

Chronos vs Kairos

Chronos: Passing of time

Kairos: Divine moments

There is a sense that the older a Christian is the more mature they have become. Not necessarily. Time does not mean someone will become more Godly. Phillipians 1.6 says God has begun a good in work in you and will continue that….But that wont just happen.

Some of the most ungoldly people, selfish, unyielding people you can meet are those who call themselves Christian and have been for decades. Some of the most godly mature and wise Christians are those who have had God begin a good work in them in recent times.

What does make us more like Christ? Kairos moments, moments when the divine breaks into the earthly and we encounter Jesus. The Spirit speaks, challenges, inspires and refines. Chronos, the mere passing of time, means little without the Kairos.

Imagine though if you have many moments of Kairos. Many moments of God encounters. Daily moments of hearing from, being inspired by and refined by the Spirit. Such a luxury may only be afforded to you by the Chronos that God allows you. That sort of person may indeed be the most blessed. Becoming more like Jesus, every day, as we wait for the day of Salvation.

Hope for holy citizens in a foreign land

When the people spoken to by the prophet Jeremiah were taken off in exile it would have been easy for them to have two attitudes.

To wait for their salvation from the land. To focus purely on their return to Israel. To view it, the land they were exiled to, and the people that surrounded them, as foreign, irredeemable.

To set themself up in ghettos, fortresses, to make it clear to those around them that they  would have nothing to do with them. To make it clear that the people whose land they were in were not going to be a part of their story. Their culture was not going to be something they embraced.

Perhaps God saw this happening with the exiles. Maybe this is why He instructed the prophet Jeremiah to say this in chapter 29, ““Build homes, and plan to stay. Plant gardens, and eat the food they produce. Marry and have children. Then find spouses for them so that you may have many grandchildren. Multiply! Do not dwindle away! And work for the peace and prosperity of the city where I sent you into exile. Pray to the Lord for it, for its welfare will determine your welfare.”

They were to find hope for their present life, for their family, while in exile. While holy citizens in a foreign land. Did God say to them the foreigners were holy? No. But does he indicate they should marry, plant, be a part of their community?  A resounding yes.

And so if we are going to use the exile analogy for us today, and the church in a culture which is foreign, perhaps we need to review the biblical analogy from an Old Testament time. Perhaps the answer for the church is not to retreat. Nor put all our hope for today in a coming salvation. Instead. To be a part of our culture. To plant, to have homes, to marry, to have hope in the One who is with us now, and has allowed us to be where we are for a reason.

Perhaps waiting only for a future salvation of this world might lead us to neglect the salvation of this world today.